H&S Men's Group
Austin, Texas
A twice-monthly Saturday circle. Sacred space for men doing the work.
I am Conor McMillen. I run Heart and Sword and I facilitate the group.
Two Saturdays a month, a small group of men meets in Austin to do the slow, consistent, demanding work of growing into the mature masculine. What happens in a session is its own thing. We follow what is alive in the room. Over time, certain shapes recur: the four archetypes (King, Warrior, Magician, Lover) appearing in our lives, Internal Family Systems meeting what is underneath them, sacred space held every time.
Opening
Phones in the car. Sacred space named. A short opening orients the room and brings the men in. My job as the facilitator is to hold the conditions for what wants to emerge.
Learn more about how I work ›The work
One or more men step into deeper work. IFS unburdening, an archetypal mirror, an embodied exercise, the cohort holding one man's question. We follow what is alive.
Closing
A short round. What each man takes with him, what he wants to remember, anything left unsaid. The container closes the same way it opened.
Second and fourth Saturdays. 11 AM to 1 PM. Address sent privately after intake.
- Saturday, June 13, 2026 11 AM to 1 PM
- Saturday, June 27, 2026 11 AM to 1 PM
- Saturday, July 11, 2026 11 AM to 1 PM
The group pauses after July 11 for the New Mexico backpacking retreat. We resume in August with new dates posted as soon as they are set.
Apply to joinThe sliding scale is skin in the game. What you commit to materially, you tend to show up for.
Heart and Sword is shaped by five orientations: fatherhood, sobriety, sexual integrity, a higher power, and sacred space. You do not need to have these fully embodied. You need to be honestly oriented toward them.
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Organic. Subtle. Direct. Expansive.
Through my training in Internal Family Systems and a decade of working with thousands of clients, I have come to a simple conclusion: IFS is a powerful and easy-to-understand system that deepens self-awareness and opens a path forward to healing. The way healing actually happens is quieter still -- it is the practice of feeling our feelings. The ones present right now. And the ones we could not feel before. That is the spine of how I hold the room.
For men's work I call forward the four archetypes -- King, Warrior, Magician, Lover -- to help men understand both their gifts and their shadows. I call forward integrity, vulnerability, and boundaries.
This is not about a show, or producing a high that lasts a week. It is about sustainably growing into the mature masculine. The process looks different every time. What stays the same: we come together to be vulnerable, direct, honest, raw, held, and pushed when needed -- both sovereign and interconnected.
